Got it working!
Here is what happened. I found this in a post from Commodore4eva on Xtreme 3.0. He states "Insert Enable0800 DVD into drive. This must be a DVD+R dual layer disk."
Well the readme file included with the Xtreme v3.2 does not specify it must be on a dual layer disc so I burned it to a single layer disc. Turns out that was the problem. The drive never went to 0800 mode so windows never saw it.
LOL...Now that I got it working I will most likely never use it cause I got the SH-D162C. This drive flashed with Kreon's firmware and used with either Schtrom 360Xtract v2.1 or Xbox Backup Creator is soooo much easier to extract game ss.bins, PFI's, DMI's and game iso's. BTW...I am using the Xeno connectivity kit and it is working well. So I didn't have to disassemble a xbox 360 to power the TS-H943.
Lastly...The SATA to USB adapter I purchased now works as well.