Hello... New here... and already my head is splitting from overload...

Been reading now for couple of weeks, lurking here and there, posted some, etc. But one thing is getting to me very seriously - outdated, inaccurate, suspicious, misleading, contradictory information, on too many models available, dashboard/kernel versions, xbr/freeboot, etc... General overload of info to the point where its difficult to discern the relevant from not. And the worst of all when i ask a question (after reading a lot) i get sent to google again... All i want is a confirmation of what i think is correct (or not...) or questions that i dont have a clear answer to...
So, i'm jtag virgin, be gentle

I'm yet to gather all the stuff to start doing it seriously.
Some questions if i may:
1. Just got a second xbox (first is on 8955, so, pretty much dead in jtag context) and will try to mod it. Question is if its moddable or not.
Box is as follows:
Elite 120gb jasper (16mb ? no internal MU for sure)
MFG: 2009-jul-15
K/D: 7363
DVDrom Liteon 83850 (flashed, old model, no switch was needed).
2. Here's my question: what a hell is BL1 update ? Some sources say that old dashes (76xx) of newly made boxes are somehow fixed, preventing this whole jtag malarkey.
3. is 12W soldering iron good enough ? Have one kicking about from previous mods on other consoles.
4. do i absolutely need to remove R6T3 ? I gather its for removing a possibility of accidental "official" updates being installed ? WHEN do i remove ? Before dumping, before flashing or after its already flashed and up and running ? I loathe to think i need to meddle with it, so small i'm afraid i might mess up something...
5. parts i think i'll be using. Tell me if its ok. I'm no expert and dont know first thing about radio components. Many tutorials differ in parts they use...
a) 100ohm 1/4w resistors
b) 1N4148 Diodes
6. Ok, this is one stupid question right here - do i need to POWER UP xbox for reading/writing of nand procedure ? Or is it fed through LPT ? Didn't find a clear answer to that one...
7. I'd gladly stump up some dough if someone just did it for me, so if anyone from N.Ireland Co.Tyrone is here and willing to help i'd be happy...
All i want is to get a possibility to load homebrew/isos from external drive.
Modded many consoles before but it never was as complicated as this (PS1/PS2/PSP/Wii/DC(ok that was a softmod

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Ok that one was a long post...